Is It Rude to Tell a Host about Food Dislikes or Other Dietary Restrictions?: 1923 and 2023

Women eating lunch
Larkin Housewives’ Cook Book (1923)

Some things that were considered polite a hundred years ago, are no longer considered polite and vice versa. Whether a guest should tell a host about food dislikes or dietary restrictions has changed across the years. In 1923, it was considered polite to eat what was served, whether or not the guest liked it. Allergies were not generally considered. Here’s what it said in the introduction to a 1923 cookbook:

Personal culinary dislikes are not assets to boast of, though most people seem to think they are. They are liabilities to be got rid of as quickly as possible. Learn to like the things that are good for you. Can’t. Bosh! Nonsense! And again, tut, tut! I guess I know. I did it.

Up to my twenties I ate only bread, meat, potatoes, and sweets. I got sick – very sick- and suffered more than I should have suffered had I eaten properly. That was one reason for waking up and behaving. There were two others though.

First – if other people ate and relished all these things I despised, they must be good, and I was missing something. I wished to miss nothing.

Second- I discovered my limited diet made me a terror to hostesses. People dreaded to invite me, as I since have dreaded to invite people with limited tastes. No one likes to have to keep a card index system of the intricate dislikes of one’s friends. It’s a nuisance. I realized this as I saw harassed glances at things I wasn’t eating. I was unhappy. I didn’t want the particular hostess of the moment to worry about me, but she did, of course, and I do not like to be a worry and a bother to other folks, and I do like to be invited out. I was afraid if I didn’t reform I’d be an unwelcome guest. So I set to work. Seafoods, salads, vegetables – I can eat ’em all, though I freely acknowledge there are some I like better than others, and coconut and caraway seeds still do go down very, very hard, and only when I’m being polite. I am hoping to like them eventually.

The Calorie Cook Book (Mary Dickerson Donahey, 1923)

Proper etiquette has changed across the years. Here is what it said in Reader’s Digest in a 2023 article:

Not Telling Your Host about your Dietary Restrictions

If you have food allergies or other dietary restrictions, you’re probably well aware that talking about what gluten does to your tummy doesn’t make for the most artful dinner party conversation starter. If you’re a vegetarian, you might also not want to force them to cater to you. (After all, there’s always a salad or a side dish, right?) Accordingly, you may be under the impression that when invited to a dinner party, the politest course of action is to keep your dietary concerns to yourself and hope there will be something you can eat.

But if you don’t talk to your host about this in advance, it could be awkward for both you (you’ll go hungry) and them (they’ll definitely notice if you’re not eating the food they’ve put on the table and wonder why). Remember: They’ve taken a lot of time to prepare the meal and want you, as their guest, to be happy.

Do this instead: If you have dietary issues, mention them to your host in advance. Then you can decide, together, what works best for both of you and for the sake of the party’s flow.

Reader’s Digest (June 6, 2023)

Old-fashioned Combination Cabbage Salad (Cabbage and Celery Gelatin)

Combination Cabbage Salad in bowl

I can remember eating gelatin salads that contained vegetables when I was a child, so was intrigued when I came across a hundred-year-old recipe for Combination Cabbage Salad. The salad actually is a gelatin salad that contains shredded cabbage, chopped celery, and chipped pimento. It is made using unflavored gelatin. The recipe only called for 1/2 cup of sugar, while calling for 1 cup vinegar and the juice of a lemon. The result was a salad that was very tart and tangy.

The recipe suggests serving the salad with whipped cream that has a little salad dressing stirred into it. I used Ceasar dressing. This added to the overall tartness of the salad.Combination Cabbage Salad on plate

This salad is very old-fashioned–and definitely very different from modern sweet, fruit-flavored, gelatin salads, but I enjoyed it. The salad was refreshingly tart on a hot summer day – though if I made it again I think that I’d skip the whipped cream topping. The whipped cream and salad dressing mixture amplified the sourness of this dish, and overwhelmed the other ingredients.

Here’s the original recipe:

Recipe for Combination Cabbage Salad
Source: Larkin Housewives’ Cook Book (1923)

I skipped the suggestion to mold this gelatin salad in teacups, and went right to the suggestion to put it in a pan – though I actually used a square, flat baking dish.

This recipe required lots of interpretation on my part. I have no idea how much  one-half package of Larkin Gelatin would be, so I added up all the liquids and estimated that this recipe calls for approximately 5 2/3 cups of liquid. My rule of thumb is to use one packet of unflavored gelatin for each 2 cups of liquid, so I used 3 packets. That worked well.

I don’t know how much 1/4 can of pimientos would be. I used 2 tablespoons of chopped pimento.

I put a little salad dressing in the whipped cream. I’m curious about what type of dressing the recipe author used. I used Ceasar dressing because I had it on hand – though that’s probably not very authentic when making a hundred-year-old recipe.  If I made this recipe again, I skip the salad dressing (and probably would also skip the whipped cream).

Here’s the recipe updated for modern cooks:

Combination Cabbage Salad (Cabbage and Celery Gelatin)

  • Servings: 7 - 9
  • Difficulty: moderate
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3  packets (0.25 ounce) unflavored gelatin

1/2 cup water + 4 cups water

1/2 cup sugar

1 teaspoon salt

1 cup vinegar

juice of 1 lemon

2 cups cabbage, shredded

1 1/2 cups celery, chopped

2 tablespoons pimento, chopped

1/2 cup heavy whipping cream (if desired)

2 teaspoons salad dressing (if desired) – I used Ceasar salad dressing, though think that a sweeter dressing might be better.)

Put 1/2 cup cold water in a bowl. Sprinkle the gelatin on top of the water, and let soak for 5 minutes.

Put 4 cups water, the sugar, and salt in a saucepan. Bring to a boil.  Add the gelatin that has been soaked in water. Bring back to a boil while stirring constantly until the gelatin is dissolved. Remove from heat and stir in the vinegar and  lemon juice. If needed, strain. Cool slightly, then stir in the cabbage, celery, and pimento. Mold or pour into a dish or bowl. (Use a fairly flat dish, if you plan to cut the gelatin into squares to serve. A 9″ X 9″ baking dish would work well.)  Refrigerate until firm.

If desired, serve with whipped cream. Whip the cream until peaks form, then stir the salad dressing into the whipped cream. Put a dollop of the whipped cream on top of each serving.

http://www.ahundredyearsago.com

“We Eat What We Can. . . “

Quote about canning
General Welfare Guild Cook Book (Compiled by The Beaver Valley General Hospital, New Brighton, Pennsylvania, 1923)

I have an early apple tree that is just loaded with apples this year. There’s no way my husband and I can eat all the apples, so last week-end I canned 14 quarts of apples. When I was flipping through a hundred-year-old cookbook for ideas for this post, this quote at the beginning of the chapter with jelly and preserves recipes really resonated with me. Maybe I’m the exception, but when it comes to canning for me, some things haven’t changed over the last hundred years.

Hundred-Year-Old String Bean Recipe

 

string beans

Sometimes the most basic ways of preparing a simple food changes over the course of a hundred years. String beans are a good example. Here’s what it says in a hundred-year-old cookbook:

Recipe for string beans
Source: Boston Cooking-School Cook Book (1923)

The old recipe calls for boiling the string beans 1-3 hours!! And, for breaking or cutting them into 1-inch pieces. Today, many people leave them whole. (I normally break string beans into 2 -3 inch pieces, but if preparing a meal for my children or grandchildren I would definitely leave them whole.) The old recipe also calls for removing the strings from the beans – which many string beans no longer have. (I guess that technically they may not be string beans.)

When I made the recipe I did cut the string beans into 1-inch pieces, but I couldn’t bring myself to cook the beans for 1-3 hours, and in the updated recipe say to boil them for 10-15 minutes – though I did provide information about cooking longer, if desired.

Here’s the recipe updated for modern cooks:

String Beans

  • Servings: 2 - 3
  • Difficulty: easy
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1 pound string beans

water

1 teaspoon salt

1 tablespoon butter

Trim the ends of the beans, and then cut or break the beans into one-inch pieces. Wash and put in a saucepan. Cover with water; add salt.  Bring to a boil using high heat; then reduce heat and cook 10-15 minutes. Drain, then add butter. Let the butter melt, stir gently, then serve. (If desired, cook longer for a softer consistency.  This will result in string beans that are prepared more similarly to how it was done a hundred years ago. A 1923 cookbook calls for cooking the beans 1-3 hours.)

http://www.ahundredyearsago.com

Lettuce with Cucumber Sauce

Lettuce with Cucumber Sauce on plate

I recently came across a recipe in a hundred-year-old cookbook for Lettuce with Cucumber Sauce. It is a tasty Wedge Salad recipe with a mayonnaise dressing that contains chopped cucumber, onion, and green pepper.

Lettuce with Cucumber Sauce is an intriguing combination of new and old. Wedge Salad is currently a somewhat trendy way of serving lettuce (and I actually was surprised to see a Wedge Salad-type recipe  in the old cookbook), while the mayonnaise with chopped vegetables dressing seemed old-fashioned.

Here’s the original recipe:

Recipe for Lettuce with Cucumber Sauce
Source: The Calorie Cook Book by Mary Dickerson Dohahey (1923)

Here’s the recipe updated for modern cooks:

Lettuce with Cucumber Sauce

  • Servings: 6 servings
  • Difficulty: easy
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2 small heads iceberg lettuce or 1 large head iceberg lettuce

1 slice onion, finely chopped

1/2 large cucumber, peeled and then finely chopped

1/3 green pepper, finely chopped

3 tablespoons mayonnaise

Cut lettuce into wedges. If the head is small cut into thirds; if large into sixths. Set aside.

In the meantime, put the onion, cucumber, pepper, and mayonnaise into a small bowl. Mix until the vegetables are evenly distributed in the mayonnaise.

To serve: Put each wedge on serving plate. Spoon 1/6th of the mayonnaise and vegetable sauce over each wedge.

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Hundred-Year-Old Tips on the Care of Vegetables

summer squashHere’s advice in a hundred-year-old cookbook on the care of vegetables:

Care of Vegetables

Summer vegetables should be cooked as soon after gathering as possible; in case they must be kept, spread on bottom of cool, dry, well-ventilated cellar, or place in ice-box. Lettuce may be best kept by sprinkling with cold water and placing in a tin pan closely covered. Wilted vegetables may be freshened by allowing to stand in cold water. Vegetables which contain sugar lose some of their sweetness by standing; corn and peas are more quickly affected than others.

Winter vegetables should be kept in a cold, dry place. Beets, carrots, turnips, potatoes, etc., should be put in barrels or piled in bins, to exclude as much air as possible. Squash should be spread, and needs careful watching; when dark spots appear, cook at once. . .

A few years ago native vegetables were alone sold; but now our markets are largely supplied from the Southern States and California, thus allowing us fresh vegetables throughout the year.

The Boston Cooking-School Cook Book (1923)

Wow – it’s amazing that already a hundred years ago that the transportation system in the U.S. was good enough to allow vegetables to routinely be shipped across the country.