How Should Offensive Language in Diaries be Handled?

17-year-old Helena Muffly wrote exactly 100 years ago today:     

Saturday, June 8, 1912:  The high lady here wanted to make a certain kind of cake, and so I walked to the neighbors to get an ingredient. I truly am the n_____  around here. I am getting that color as I and the sun’s rays often meet and collide.

Recent photo of a neighbor’s house

Her middle-aged granddaughter’s comments 100 years later:

Most days I look forward to writing a post—today is not one of those days. I’ve known that this entry was coming up for several weeks and I’ve dreaded it.

I need help. How should I write about this diary entry?

Grandma probably used language and expressed sentiments that were typical of those in her community. I don’t think any less of Grandma because of what she wrote—yet I’m troubled by this entry.

As family historians, how should controversial text in family documents be handled?  . . . use it verbatim?  . . . edit it?  . .  don’t include it in family histories? . .  . .include additional historic contextual information? . . .

Is it important to accurately report what the original document said?  . . .or do readers of family histories want to feel good about their ancestors and not read upsetting things? . . .

How to Starch Clothes

17-year-old Helena Muffly wrote exactly 100 years ago today: 

Thursday, June 6, 1912:  Utterly forgotten.

Her middle-aged granddaughter’s comments 100 years later:

Must have been a slow day . . .

I’m still reading a booklet that Proctor & Gamble published almost a hundred years ago on how to do laundry. A couple of days ago I told you about how clothes were ironed in the early 1900s. Many clothes needed to be starched before they were ironed.

Here are the abridged directions for starching clothes.

Starching

Aprons, shirtwaists, the trimming of underwear, etc. are starched. Make the starch according to the directions given below.

The amount of starch needed depends upon the number of garments to be starched. Those that should be stiffest must be starched first. Dry or thick materials take up more starch than wet or thin ones, and the starch may need to be thinned with water for some garments.

When only part of a garment is to be starched, gather that part into the hand and dip it into the starch, rub it well, then squeeze out the extra starch. This must be done by hand, the rest of the garment being held out with the rest. The starched pieces are hung out with the rest.

Thick Starch

Mix 1/2 cup starch and

1/2 cup cold water, add

¼ level teaspoonful shave white wax or lard and

4 cups (1 qt.) boiling water

Let it boil up several times to be sure that wax is melted and mixed and starch cooked. Add a little bluing and set dish in a pan of cold water until it is cool enough to handle.

Thin Starch

Mix 1/2 cup starch and

1/2 cup cold water, add

1/4 level teaspoonful lard or twice as much borax, stir smooth with

1/2 cup of cold, then stirring rapidly, add

3 pints of boiling water and continue stirring until it boils thoroughly. Have holder ready to lift it from the fire, or it will boil over. Add

1 pint of cold water to thin it and reduce the heat, and add enough bluing to counteract the yellow color of the starch. Turn starch into a large dish. If carefully made, it need not be strained.

Approved Methods for Home Laundering (1915)

As a reader commented on the post about ironing—thank goodness for spray starch. 🙂

Running an Errand for Sister

17-year-old Helena Muffly wrote exactly 100 years ago today:  

Wednesday, June 5, 1912: Trotted up to McEwensville this morning on an errand for Rufus, the dear little mortal.

Recent photo of the road Grandma would have “trotted” down as she returned home from McEwensville.

Her middle-aged granddaughter’s comments 100 years later:

Throughout the diary Grandma referred to her sister Ruth as Rufus when she was particularly annoyed.

Was the errand to deliver a message to one of Ruth’s friends?  . . . .to buy something at a store?  . . .

These buildings were once part of McEwensville’s small commercial area.

Older sisters can be bossy, but why did Grandma agree to walk the mile or so into McEwensville?  Hmm– maybe running errands was more fun than watching cows.

Ironing a Hundred Years Ago

17-year-old Helena Muffly wrote exactly 100 years ago today: 

Tuesday, June 4, 1912:  Had most of the ironing to do today. Fixed over a hat by taking the ribbon off and putting another kind on. Wonder if I’ll wear it very much.

Source: Approved Methods for Home Laundering (1915)

Her middle-aged granddaughter’s comments 100 years later:

Ironing was much more complex a hundred years ago than it is now.  The Muffly’s did not have electricity, so flat irons would have been heated on the wood or coal stove.

Here are abridged directions for ironing from a booklet called Approved Methods for Home Laundering published almost a hundred years ago by Proctor & Gamble:

Dampening

Dampening or sprinkling is usually the last thing done at night.  Cover the table with a clean cloth, fill a basin with warm water, and use a clean whisk broom for sprinkling. Sprinkle each large piece, fold sides and ends into the middle. Lay small pieces together before rolling. Linen should be very damp. Pack all the rolls into the basket and cover tightly.

Ironing

Ironing is the finish of good laundry work and the test of the laundress.

A laundress’s test for a hot iron is to hold it near her cheek for a few seconds. If too hot for this, it is too hot to use.  [Comment—whew, this sounds dangerous. I’m amazed it was considered an “approved method” back then.]

Another test is to touch the bottom of the iron with a wet finger; if it hisses, it is hot—the shorter the hiss, the hotter the iron. [Comment–this also sounds a little dangerous; though I can remember my mother doing it.]

Shake or stretch the article to be ironed into shape and place on board. Iron with the right hand from right to left, using the left hand to arrange the material.

First iron the part that will wrinkle least, leaving the plain, straight parts until the last. Ruffles and trimming should be ironed first.

Best results are attained when the iron follows the long warp thread of the material. The cloth should be left dry, especially bands, hems, and seams, or they will wrinkle.

For heavy materials use heavy irons; for thin materials, lighter irons, and for gathers, a narrow, pointed iron. Iron quickly with an iron hot, yet not hot enough to scorch. If the material becomes dry, dampen it with a soft cloth.

These directions were the most basic ironing directions. For detailed directions about how to starch and iron a collar, click here to see a previous post.

Hat

Was Grandma already remodeling the hat with the brown ribbon that she just got in April or it was it another older hat?

Remodeling a Skirt

17-year-old Helena Muffly wrote exactly 100 years ago today: 

Monday, June 3, 1912: I am trying to remodel a skirt which was once the property of the benevolent Ruthie. I’ll know whether I’ll wear it or not after it’s finished.

treadle sewing machine

Her middle-aged granddaughter’s comments 100 years later:

Sounds like a bit of sarcasm. Grandma seems uncertain whether she appreciates her sister Ruth handing a skirt down to her.

I wonder why the skirt needed to be remodeled. Had styles changed? Was Grandma a different size than her sister?

It’s interesting that Grandma persevered, yet felt uncertain about whether she’d be happy with the remodeled skirt . Was she a pessimist? . . . pragmatic?  . . .

When I was young I often made outfits that I didn’t like after I’d completed them. But every time I started a new outfit I thought that it would turn out better than my previous efforts. If I hadn’t been an optimist, I don’t think that I could have worked on the sewing project.

Paper Cow Directions

17-year-old Helena Muffly wrote exactly 100 years ago today: 

Monday, May 27, 1912:I hope this week won’t be as monotonous as last week was. I have to watch cows more days and then I think I’ll make a dash for liberty.

Her middle-aged granddaughter’s comments 100 years later:

This is the third time in two weeks that Grandma mentioned watching the cows. I agree with Grandma that it’s getting monotonous, so decided to have a little fun today and make some paper cows.

(My husband thinks that I’ve gone a bit over the edge–especially when I posed the cows for the photo–but making the cows was relaxing and we all need to play sometimes. 🙂 )

The June, 1913 issue of The School-Arts Magazine had a pattern for a paper cow.

If you’d like to make some cows, here is the pattern and the directions:

Click here for paper cow pattern.

Cut out the pattern pieces. On heavy cardstock trace around the pattern pieces. Cut out and decorate as desired.

Dovetail the legs and body together at the slits. The slits for the ears (see small black line between eyes and neck) can be made by an adult  using a small sharp knife or very small sharp scissors.

Note: I used crayons to put the black spots on the cows. If I did it again, I might cut back spots out of construction paper.

P.S.—Previous posts with old-time paper crafts have been very popular. If you haven’t already seen them you may want to check them out:

Paper Doll Girl and Her Swimming Ducks

Paper Birds

Swimming Frog

School Girl Paper Doll

I’m reprinting this 1912 photo that I posted several days ago. I had fun trying to reproduce the look of cows in a field when I took the picture of the paper cows and thought you might enjoy seeing this photo again. Photo source: Kimball’s Dairy Farmer Magazine (June 1, 1912)

40th Wedding Anniversary

17-year-old Helena Muffly wrote exactly 100 years ago today: 

Tuesday, May 21, 1912: Ruth was away nearly all day. I’m getting so tired on my repetition. One that seems to never have an end.

Seated adults (left to right): Ruth (Muffly) Gauger, Helen(a) Muffly Swartz, Raymond Swartz, Bill Gauger

Her middle-aged granddaughter’s comments 100 years later:

Many of the pictures that I recently found were from time periods more recent than the diary, but I think that you’ll enjoy some over them, so I’ll share a few over the next couple days .

The picture today was taken in 1961, about 50 years after the diary, at the 40th wedding anniversary party of my grandparents.

Both my grandmother and grandfather graduated in 1913 from McEwensville High School; however, I don’t think that Grandma ever mentions him in the diary. It always seems really odd to me that she never mentions the guy she ends up marrying since they attended an extremely small high school. (There were six people in the graduating class).

Classmate and Future Husband: Raymond Swartz

I think that the reason may have been that Grandpa was 3 1/2 years younger than Grandma. He apparently skipped several grades and probably was considered the smart little kid in the class—but was not part of Grandma’s social set until sometime later.

Ruth Muffly

The husband of Grandma’s sister Ruth, Bill Gauger was a few years older than Grandma and was mentioned in the diary.

Bill (William) Gauger