When dining at a restaurant or a friend’s home, I have accidently dropped a fork onto the floor more times than I can count. Whenever that happens, I’m not quite sure what to do. Should I dive under the table to retrieve it? . . . If so, should I wipe it off with my napkin and continue using it? . . . or maybe the 5-second rule applies, and I won’t need to wipe it off. (But would others think that is gross?) Or maybe I should ask for another one? . . . but would that call attention to my clumsiness?
I was surprised to discover that this seemingly minor (yet embarrassing issue) was addressed in a hundred-year-old magazine. Which then made me curious about whether the etiquette for dropped forks has changed over the years. Here is what I found.
1926: Dropped Fork Etiquette
Here’s what the hundred-year-old magazine said:
Why Not Pick Up the Fork You Dropped?
Reasons why you should not pick up that fork are: (1) Because you surely would not use it to eat with, would you, after having fallen on the floor, which – no matter how clean – is not assumed to be so clean as the table? (2) Because, relaxed or repealed as many of the old rules are, it is not yet considered polite to clean off with your table napkin, the dirt which (though invisible) has been contacted by the fallen fork from the floor. Nor would it be correct to dip said fork into your water goblet to cleanse it. (3) Because, after picking up the fork, we are blest if we know what on earth you could do with it!
It should not go right from the floor to the table; it should not be washed in the water goblet nor wiped with the dinner napkin. Neither should it be slipped into the pocket of your dinner partner, nor surreptitiously placed on your own lap. Nor should you leave your seat to take it to the sideboard, nor call a maid to relieve you of its burden.
The worst of this repealing of old rules is that many people do not know which are repealable and which are not.
American Cookery (October, 1926)
2026: Dropped Fork Etiquette
According to the Style for Success: Business Image and Etiquette Training website:
Fallen utensils: Anything that falls on the floor should not go back on the table. Get the server’s attention and leave it for them to take care of. They need to get you a new utensil. (If they wipe it off with a napkin, and hand it back to you – they believe bacteria are weenies too and you’re going to the wrong class of restaurants.)
Etiquette for Dropped Forks Has Not Changed
Some etiquette rules have changed over the last hundred years while others haven’t. One that has not changed is that, both then and now, you should not retrieve a dropped fork or other flatware when dining at a restaurant or other sit-down meal. Instead ask for a new utensil.
That is interesting. I seem to remember my mom telling me if I dropped a fork, a lady visitor, a knife, a man and a spoon, a child. We didn’t get many visitors in the country, so I found this entertaining.
We say that too.
That does make sense. I enjoyed reading the 100 year old article.
I agree that if they wipe it off and hand it back to you, you are eating at the wrong place! Yech!
An interesting post and certainly a situation that all of us have experienced! I agree that the fork or other utensil should stay on the floor and to ask for a clean one. Floors are usually incredibly dirty, especially in commercial areas, no matter how hard we work to keep them clean.
When my son was about 12, he did a school science experiment where he grew bacteria samples in agar plates. He had numerous samples from our kitchen, dining room and bathroom, including the floors. The worst place turned out to be the refrigerator door handle followed by the floors. I was surprised at the door handle result but not the floors!